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Having firsthand experience dealing with legal aid solicitors (or I should say young practising solicitors) during my unfortunate marriage break up, I found the subject of financial agreement between myself and my soon to be ex-wife, to be more of an argument between two greedy and pushy solicitors. Firstly, there is no law in Jersey whereby maintenance means 20% of the supporting parent’s income. This is purely a guideline based on UK agreements. Why doesn’t Jersey have their own set rating which takes into consideration the cost of living here (that includes rents e.t.c.).
Secondly, if a mother takes the children out of the Island how come the solicitor will do little in the way of bringing the children back to Jersey where proper custody and access rights are worked out? If the father had left the Island with his children I bet he would have been hounded to all the corners of the earth and made to look like the villain.
Furthermore, I suggest it would be appropriate to consider the children’s thoughts of how they feel and what it is they would like. My children were absolutely devastated when they couldn’t see me each day or to say goodnight in the evenings.
Before we start considering extra family members we should realize all fathers have inner feelings too, and a child’s bond is just as strong with their mother as with their father. Equal rights should be considered. If an independent board of unpaid family experts say doctors or clergy should preside over a meeting with both parents to discuss financial agreements and child welfare then there could be a more favourable outcome. Children are never a bargaining tool. Children are loved by both parents and for either parent to leave the family causes great pain and emotion. It may be wise to allow parents a certain time period to get used to being alone again so as to avoid extra emotional stress when it comes to the burden of meeting solicitors and courts.

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